Sending my oldest to Kindergarten has felt like starting a new job. You walk in the door and don’t know how it all works. You think you know how to do the job, but learning what other people do and how it all fits together is part of the hard work it takes to get adjusted. You can’t walk in on the first day and know how to function; no one can.
It was bumpy to start off with, and I felt like I made mistakes. I definitely got confused, mis-read one of the 25 papers, aNF just didn’t see the blurb in the newsletter that would have answered my question. I missed the chance to have thanksgiving lunch in the cafeteria in one blurb tucked away inside a newsletter. I nearly mixed up the time of their Halloween parade because the main calendar had a different start time. I couldn’t attend nearly any functions because younger siblings were not allowed. But as I learned, as I went through it once, it became easier.
I am still struggling to learn how everything works, aNF that is okay. I don’t expect myself to drop the ball, but sometimes I do. Which brings me to point number six…
6. You will make mistakes too.
You are only human. Give yourself grace. you will get it right the next time around. When in doubt, always always just ask. Don’t listen to the voices that say you are becoming obnoxious or a nuisance. You’re learning, and that takes trial and error!
7. I use a paper calendar.
One way that I have tried to beat the confusion over all the different events, items to send in, & what they need to wear is to write it down when I read it the first time. The notes home in the folder are numerous, but I try to save them to double check. I use the weekly pages to write down what to bring on the day it is due to remind myself of what’s needed. It has worked well- if I can manage to read through all the right papers! Haha.
The other way to learn what’s going on when you’re a first time parent is to ask another parent or two! It may be that some of them have been on the wild kindergarten ride before. Which brings me to point number 8…
8. If you can, take time to meet other parents.
I volunteered every week & this helped me get to know one or two other parents in the class, rather than just a few minutes before or after school. (It also helped me get a feel for his class, become a familiar face to the staff, and helped ease his anxiety at the beginning of the year.)
It can be to helpful to ask a someone else what their experience is or was like. Lucky for me, I had a good friend with a daughter in another kindergarten class, so we could talk about what class was like and compare our experiences. But, she was a first timer too! So sometimes, we muddled through together. Having someone you can talk to that understands bring such comfort, no matter what the situation. It can either help you feel confident in the newness of of it all, or it can help you figure out that it shouldn’t be like what you’re experiencing!
I hope these three tips have been encouraging!! They are meant to be. I’ll finish up with my last two in the final post…
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